Friends of the opposite sex….while in a relationship. For some, this is a major issue. Why? For 2 major reasons (comment if you feel that I overlooked one).
1. Insecurities/Jealousy. This is the number one reason why both men and women have problems with their significant others being friends with someone of the opposite sex. They feel threatened by that friendship. I can admit that I was that type of girlfriend before and let me say, it is not a good “headspace” to be in. Not only does it show lack of trust, but it will drive you crazy over-analyzing every little detail of that situation. If you put that much effort into wondering if your girlfriend/boyfriend’s “opposite sex friendships” are more than just friendships, you shouldn’t be in a relationship. In it’s simplest form, the only difference between friendships and relationships is intimacy, so yes, I can understand the territorial instinct to want your significant other to yourself and want that unique bond/closeness. Maybe your boyfriend/girlfriend has been friends with this person for 10 years and you’ve only been together with him/her for 1 year and you feel you have to compete for that attention or compete with that higher level of bond that they have…that’s all a part of you feeling insecure within that situation. If you feel some type of way, address it PROPERLY, but at the end of the day, who are you to TELL your significant other they can’t be friends with someone of the opposite sex, let along hang with or talk to other males/females? That’s something that is going to naturally occur in everyday life.
2. People actually believe that men and women can’t be JUST friends. I neverrrr understood that! I can personally speak on this matter. I have several good, male friends that I talk to almost everyday, including one my closest friends…neither of which I have EVER been inclined to move past anything more than a friendship with... Never. Love em to death, but do I think about them beyond our platonic friendship? Negative. And I’m 100% sure they would say the same.
Now I would address the significant factor of “cheating” in this post because, of course, that could possibly play a role in the situation, but that’s a whole ‘nother rant. Nonetheless, how do you feel about your significant other having friends of the opposite sex? Do you think there should be “guidelines” in place, do you not care because you trust your significant other 100%? What are your thoughts?
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I have a little too say about a lot of things….so just let me vent.
A Bit of a Bitch (and no, I don’t care if that word offends you)
Yea, I can be a bit of a bitch and I know it. I would apologize for using that vernacular, but I don’t apologize for things that I meant to say. I’m opinionated. Go figure. I have a slight problem with keeping that opinion to myself. Why do I consider it a problem, you ask? Because not every human being is built to handle a person, like myself, with such a strong opinion. They’ll get offended, they’ll claim that you always think you’re right, they’ll say you hurt their feelings, and they‘ll even go so far as to say “omg, she‘s such a bitch“. Wow, well, I’m sorry that you allowed my “opinion” to effect you on such a great level….okay, maybe I’m not sorry.
Word is Bond
When people tell me that they’re going to do something, I have this terrible habit of actually believing them. Sucks for me, right? I swear I feel like people have never heard the phrase “word is bond”. Guess that’s irrelevant now that it’s 2011 and all.
P.S.
Period Symptoms. It seems that I’ve been blessed with the world’s worst mood swings. They’re to blame for this post.
#OkBye
This is a post that I am looking for a lot of feedback on. I’ve personally heard many opinions from people, including friends and randoms, about the topic of interracial dating. Opinions including:
A. “I would never date outside of my race.”
B. “I would date outside my race, but I would never marry outside of my race.”
C. “I would never date within my own race.”
D. “I don’t have racial preferences when it comes to dating or marriage.”
I've also have had conversations with people who try to vindicate and justify this logic. "Oh I don't want to date someone from this race because they act this way" or "I would love to date someone from this race because they do this". Not only do those comments show that they lump races into generic categories ( or that dreaded word STEREOTYPES), it shows that they actually base their dating life off of these stereotypes of how they think a person of that race could possibly behave without getting to know that person on a personal level.
I, myself, fit into that “D.” opinion on interracial dating. It would be a slightly new experience to me because I’ve only dated outside of my race twice, but I don’t see myself actively limiting my choices of a potential partner based on skin. It’s hard for me to wrap my mind around the idea that someone could be okay with possibly missing out on a blessing because of “skin preferences” or because they’re scared to try something different.
So, my questions: How do you personally feel about interracial dating/marriage? Have you ever dated someone outside your race?
When I first chose my major (Public Relations), I did a little research. I had always loved the field, but I wanted to gain a tad bit more knowledge about it. Through that research, I had noticed that most people in this field end up working for large PR firms in corporate offices. I literally burst into tears. Are you serious? So are you trying to tell me I'm going to be in a damn business suit every day, kissing up to head executives, and having impersonal relationships with my...oh, i mean "our" clients? All for my love of Public Relations? Not happening! I just can't do it.
I've never seen myself as that 9-5, uptight, stuffy corporate office type of person. I am a very free individual and the "rules" in the corporate world just don't fit the bill for me. The thought of being trapped in that type of atmosphere is beyond terrifying.
I love the thought of being a publicist (in which i will be this time next year!), being able to interact with my client on a personal, face-to-face basis in order to effectively meet their individual needs, and even being able to have a close bond with my co-workers so that we can effectively work as a team when necessary. My aim is to eventually work (happily) at a boutique PR agency focused on the entertainment industry, freelance if possible, and later start my own boutique PR agency. I am beyond willing to do all of the hard work, but my work environment cannot, I repeat, CANNOT be "corporate". If starting my own business is what it takes to do so, I am more than ready to take on that task.
My questions: What are your feelings about working in the corporate world? What is your ideal working environment? Oh, and what is your major/occupation?
