Options.

I’m in a mood to talk about this for some reason. I’ve been “single” for the past 6 months. I’ve been interested in several people, no so interested in others. I’ve learned to keep my options open. Not with the intention of being with more than one individual because I’m the monogamous type, but to be able to choose to put my time and effort into the situation that’ll be most worthwhile. I thought I’d share a little something about some of the individuals who’ve caught my eye over this 6 month period...in  no particular order.


Mr. [Brown Skin]
I’ve never been attracted to a person that I  know JUST physically …until I came across this fine specimen! LOL!  Technically I’ve known him since grade school, but we didn’t get back in contact until this year. And let me say, when I saw him my mouth dropped! Athletic body, Brown skinned, Sexy smile, Nice haircut. The brotha looked GOOD! Then, once we began conversing I got the (metaphorical) balls to ask for his number…because his conversation intrigued me. After texting him on maybe two occasions, I wasn’t really expecting to hear from him…but I did. He started  checking up on me every now and then, and that really caught my attention. Through these conversations I found that he had a lot going for himself and that surprisingly, he wasn’t cocky. That came as a total shock because as stated before….he is sexy. But I digress, I was very interested in him and still am very intrigued by him. I know we’ll only be friends, which I am happy with.


Mr. [ Motivation] 
I’ve been friends with him only since this summer. He seemed like a cool person to get to know, so that’s what we did. It got to the point where we would communicate with each other on a daily basis. I wasn’t initially attracted to him, but that slowly began to change as I got to know him more. I found him to be the most motivating person ever. He seemed to be so goal-orientated and he didn’t let anything get in the way of what he needed to accomplish. We started hanging out more often and then he popped this question on me. The question I will not reveal lol, but I went along with it. I really can be myself around him and I haven’t felt that type of comfort in a while. 


Mr. [Moving Too Fast]
I’ve been friends with him since late spring of this year. He was a really cool person and it got to the point where we’d talk everyday even though we were miles away from each other. Our bond grew so fast! I felt like we were best friends in such a short period of time. I think, in a way, this is where things went wrong. We made the decision to actually be together. Yes, this is the one month relationship. I should have stopped things as soon as I felt them moving too fast, but I didn’t.  The time we spent together was great, but I knew it wouldn’t work on the path that it was headed, so I stopped it after a month of us being in a relationship. We are still great friends ‘til this day, but only that.


Mr. [Words, No Action]
I’ve been knowing him since I was about 16. Always knew he was interested in me, but I was always taken. He truly caught my eye during his freshmen year in college. I was like “damn…when did he start lookin so good” lol. He still expresses interest in me and I do to him as well now, but it never goes further than that. We always “sort of” make plans to hang out, but he never really acts on them when the time comes. We haven’t done any of that get to know each other stuff, so that leads me to believe that he only wants one thing. I mean he’ll SAY how he likes me and wants to spend time together, but doesn’t ACT like it. Where’s the effort? I hate to jump to conclusions, but show me otherwise… I can’t keep putting effort into something that just might not truly be worth it.


Mr. [ Consistently Inconsistent ]
I’ve been interested him since this summer…when we took that art class together. You know those butterflies you get when you see someone, yea I got those every time I’d look up and see him shooting that beautiful smile my way. He has to have the sexiest voice that has ever graced my presence..deep and powerful. That type where, when he speaks, it sort of demands attention. Great conversation. Goals. Wonderful taste in music and even sings! Loves the Lord! He was a breath of fresh air. I couldn’t wait to get to know him better! Unfortunately, communication wasn’t consistent enough for that to happen properly. We’ve been out together several times, but the communication just isn’t completely there. Again, I ask, where’s the effort?  It’s funny that I still have hope for the situation, but who knows right?