Interracial Dating

This is a post that I am looking for a lot of feedback on. I’ve personally heard many opinions from people, including friends and randoms, about the topic of interracial dating. Opinions including: 


A. “I would never date outside of my race.” 
B. “I would date outside my race, but I would never marry outside of my race.”
C. “I would never date within my own race.”
D. “I don’t have racial preferences when it comes to dating or marriage.”


I've also have had conversations with people who try to vindicate and justify this logic. "Oh I don't want to date someone from this race because they act this way" or "I would love to date someone from this race because they do this".  Not only do those comments show that they lump races into generic categories ( or that dreaded word STEREOTYPES), it shows that they actually base their dating life off of these stereotypes of how they think a person of that race could possibly behave without getting to know that person on a personal level.


I, myself, fit into that “D.” opinion on interracial dating.  It would be a slightly new experience to me because I’ve only dated outside of my race twice, but I don’t see myself actively limiting my choices of a potential partner based on skin. It’s hard for me to wrap my mind around the idea that someone could be okay with possibly missing out on a blessing because of “skin preferences” or because they’re scared to try something different. 


So, my questions: How do you personally feel about interracial dating/marriage? Have you ever dated someone outside your race?

Corporate.

        When I first chose my major (Public Relations), I did a little research. I had always loved the field, but I wanted to gain a tad bit more knowledge about it. Through that research, I had noticed that most people in this field end up working for large PR firms in corporate offices. I literally burst into tears.  Are you serious? So are you trying to tell me I'm going to be in a damn business suit every day, kissing up to head executives, and having impersonal relationships with my...oh, i mean "our" clients?  All for my love of Public Relations? Not happening! I just can't do it. 
        I've never seen myself as that 9-5, uptight, stuffy corporate office type of person. I am a very free individual and the "rules" in the corporate world just don't fit the bill for me.  The thought of being trapped in that type of atmosphere is beyond terrifying. 
        I love the thought of being a publicist (in which i will be this time next year!), being able to interact with my client on a personal, face-to-face basis in order to effectively meet their individual needs, and even being able to have a close bond with my co-workers so that we can effectively work as a team when necessary.   My aim is to eventually work (happily) at a boutique PR agency focused on the entertainment industry, freelance if possible, and later start my own boutique PR agency. I am beyond willing to do all of the hard work, but my work environment cannot, I repeat, CANNOT  be "corporate". If starting my own business is what it takes to do so, I am more than ready to take on that task.


My questions: What are your feelings about working in the corporate world? What is your ideal working environment? Oh, and what is your major/occupation?

Tweets #1

Sometimes I  randomly start tweeting and then realize I wish I had blogged about that instead...lol but hey...read from bottom to top (time stamps).

Relationship Standards!

      So one night as I was talking to all of my roomies, the topic of relationships/men came up. Typical girl talk, right lol. And everyone had there separate opinions about the topic. “The man for me is not in Tennessee.”, “Every guy I’ve met since I’ve been here sucks”, so on and so forth. As the conversation progressed we ended up talking about what qualities we look for in a guy a.k.a. “standards”. I cringe when I hear a guy saying how women ask for “too much” in a relationship. I, myself, believe this: In a relationship, I expect a guy to be able to bring to the table the same things I can bring to the table, or better if applicable lol (ie. Honesty, loyalty, spirituality, intelligence, open-mindedness, support, being understanding, good communicator, employed etc.).  I’ve been in many situations where I found myself to be bringing WAY more to the table than the guy. I had to grow and mature out of that stage…QUICKLY! Yes, I naturally possess the trait to be a helper and a nurturer, but I can only do so much. I look back and notice that I was trying to change that guy into what I knew he had the potential to be.  I’ve lead many guys to the water hoping that they would take a drink…damn near wanting to force them, but that’s not how it works. People have to take that drink on their own…..deciding to change for the better on their own.  After dealing with such foolishness lol, I came to the conclusion that I can’t keep trying to go into a situation trying to heal people; just because I can see the potential in them to be a good mate, doesn’t mean that they will automatically see that potential and want to change. I have to only step into situations where I can deal with that individual, happily, on the level that they already are on…..not hope that they will step it up eventually. Ya feel me?
     The conversation went on and I brought up the fact that I have a “list“….an actual, physical list of qualities that I desire in a guy. I proceeded to pull my list out of my drawer and my roomies started laughing! Lol, but I was dead serious. On this list, I had two columns. One side represented everything that I seek in a guy that I will not compromise on; if the guy does not possess that quality, characteristic, etc., I just can’t deal with them. The other side represented everything that I seek in guy that I am willing to compromise on…more so my preferences. They passed around the list, reading out some of the things I had listed, and we all agreed on the majority of those traits  When I get a chance, I will post the list in its entirety. But my questions to you all are: What are some of the qualities that you look for (or avoid) in a mate? Do women (or men) look for too much (or too little) when it comes to relationships?