Tweets #1

Sometimes I  randomly start tweeting and then realize I wish I had blogged about that instead...lol but hey...read from bottom to top (time stamps).

Relationship Standards!

      So one night as I was talking to all of my roomies, the topic of relationships/men came up. Typical girl talk, right lol. And everyone had there separate opinions about the topic. “The man for me is not in Tennessee.”, “Every guy I’ve met since I’ve been here sucks”, so on and so forth. As the conversation progressed we ended up talking about what qualities we look for in a guy a.k.a. “standards”. I cringe when I hear a guy saying how women ask for “too much” in a relationship. I, myself, believe this: In a relationship, I expect a guy to be able to bring to the table the same things I can bring to the table, or better if applicable lol (ie. Honesty, loyalty, spirituality, intelligence, open-mindedness, support, being understanding, good communicator, employed etc.).  I’ve been in many situations where I found myself to be bringing WAY more to the table than the guy. I had to grow and mature out of that stage…QUICKLY! Yes, I naturally possess the trait to be a helper and a nurturer, but I can only do so much. I look back and notice that I was trying to change that guy into what I knew he had the potential to be.  I’ve lead many guys to the water hoping that they would take a drink…damn near wanting to force them, but that’s not how it works. People have to take that drink on their own…..deciding to change for the better on their own.  After dealing with such foolishness lol, I came to the conclusion that I can’t keep trying to go into a situation trying to heal people; just because I can see the potential in them to be a good mate, doesn’t mean that they will automatically see that potential and want to change. I have to only step into situations where I can deal with that individual, happily, on the level that they already are on…..not hope that they will step it up eventually. Ya feel me?
     The conversation went on and I brought up the fact that I have a “list“….an actual, physical list of qualities that I desire in a guy. I proceeded to pull my list out of my drawer and my roomies started laughing! Lol, but I was dead serious. On this list, I had two columns. One side represented everything that I seek in a guy that I will not compromise on; if the guy does not possess that quality, characteristic, etc., I just can’t deal with them. The other side represented everything that I seek in guy that I am willing to compromise on…more so my preferences. They passed around the list, reading out some of the things I had listed, and we all agreed on the majority of those traits  When I get a chance, I will post the list in its entirety. But my questions to you all are: What are some of the qualities that you look for (or avoid) in a mate? Do women (or men) look for too much (or too little) when it comes to relationships?

My One Month Challenge!

So today is December 1st! Marks one month (or something like) that  I started my "No Fast Food/ No Take-Out Challenge! Around the end of October, I got really disgusted with how much money I was spending on food and what that food consisted of. I'm pretty sure the guy that answers the phones at Marco's Pizza knows my voice LOL. So on October 27th I told myself that I would not spend one dime on food that is not home cooked! And guess what....I did just that!  Every meal I ate from that day until now has been cooked at home. When I tell you this was a huge change for me...childdd! I was so accustomed to coming home from class, tired, and ordering up some food as I laid back in my bed watching television. That just had to change!  Through the process I learned a lot and became super motivated about so much other stuff in my life. Who would have thought that changing what I ate would affect other aspects of my life, right? It was a very exciting experience for me. I learned new recipes  (couldn't keep eating the same thing all month ya know LOL, learned to manage my time better, saved some money, and even lost about 10 pounds! I'm so proud of myself! I plan to do the same thing for the month of December, but I want to make it even more challenging this time around. How I plan to do that? I'm not completely sure yet, but I am up for that challenge. Wish me luck! ^_^

The Journey

A couple of weeks ago, I came across this article called "'There' Don't Even Exist". It basically talked about the common saying, "It's not about the destination, but the journey", in which I completely agree with. As a college student, I can't tell you how many times I hear  people talking about " I can't wait until I finish school and get a 'job'"or "I can't wait to graduate so I can start my life". I always want to put in my two cents, but I just hold my tongue and throw in a few "mhm's" since everybody can't handle my opinions lol.  But, as I read the article, they put how I felt about this topic perfectly:

"And if you really wanna take it a tad bit deeper, “there” doesn’t even exist.  As soon as you get “there” you are “here”. Present in the current day and looking, yet again, toward a false impression that life is a destination when it truly is on big, wild ass journey....Don’t worry about getting to an end point because there isn’t one.  The concept of getting "there" is a myth. Pay attention to what’s happening today because you are sitting in the midst of your most critical time period."

I felt as though she was typing this using my fingers, because this is exactly how I feel.


"Once I graduate from school.." You graduate, then what?
 "Once I get this job..." You get it, then what? 
"Once I  start a family..." You pop out some kids, then what? 
"Once I  get this house..."You get it, then what? 
"Once I get there...." You made it "there", now what?


People are also focused on that endpoint that the journey is not fully appreciated. So rushed to move on to the next thing, they forget to enjoy the journey in which they took to get "there". I never really hear people sit back and talk about how the memories they've had along away, just about those "oh so important" destinations. It kind of saddens me because I sit and think, is that what people really feel is important? Making it to that next step...just like everybody else? So focused on moving to the next thing, but not realizing where you are now...and enjoying it?

"Now is where it all goes down.  Now is what determines what happens next and how far you’ll actually go.  Now is where the plays count, and now determines whether or not you’ll make it to the Super Bowl.   Just stop focusing ON the Super Bowl so much and build.  The rest will come."